Sandra Rossi with Computerworld Australia wrote a great article which I thought was an interesting read. It deals with the invention of a Russian “flirt-bot” or spyware that is able to gather personal information from unsuspecting singles.

Talk about an instance of technology gone bad. This “flirt-bot” named CyberLover is able to initiate and conduct conversations with unsuspecting humans in chat rooms, notably online dating sites. Developed in Russia, the creators of CyberLover claim it is able to simultaneously establish a new relationship with up to 10 different people inside of 30 minutes.

For anyone who thinks that online dating is a passing trend, I just bumped into an article that shows its popularity increasing.  The study was based out of Great Britain by the dating agency Parship, and it makes two fantastic claims.

• “Nearly eight million Britons used some form of online dating service in 2007, compared to 5.4 million who used a mixture of offline and online services in 2005.”

• “Over 53 per cent of singles intend to use the internet to meet someone in the future, rising to 65 per cent of 36 to 40 year-olds.”

You’ve been using an online dating service and you’ve found someone you would really like to meet.  Before you get started, there is one big note of caution.

Online dating sites DO NOT do background checks on their customers.  Please don’t assume that because a person has a profile on a dating site that the site has “pre-qualified” them and validated their background.

Here are some best practices for you to follow before setting up your first meeting.

• Make contact by phone. 

When you post a profile on an online dating site, there are three parts that viewers will see: your picture, your headline, and your profile. Each one serves a distinct purpose, but in my opinion, the picture and the headline are the most important.

Research shows that you only have 5 seconds to grab someone’s attention.

People are superficial and we are drawn to things that catch our attention. I have previously written about the importance of your written profile and how you should focus on it when starting out. I firmly stand by that, but if you can’t get someone to click onto it to read it, it won’t matter what you write.